The Luck of The Draw
- At June 28, 2026
- By Jessica
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Published in D22 Connection, June 2026
Partners Then. Partners Now.
Call it fate. Call it the luck of the draw.
In duplicate bridge, we like to think we choose our partners—but sometimes, it seems, the cards were dealt long before we ever sat down at the table.
For the past eight years, Jim Malone and Dave Owens have been just that: partners. A steady pair. Familiar faces across the bridge table, exchanging the quiet language of bids and glances, triumphs and near-misses. To most at the club, theirs is simply a good match, nurtured by Joyce Potter, the partnership whisperer of the South Orange County Bridge Center in San Juan Capistrano.
Or perhaps, as some jokingly suggest, Joyce just liked the symmetry of a pair of “Jims.” (One, it turns out, is a nickname. You need to call him Dave.)
What no one at the club could have known in advance, not even, at first, the two Jims themselves, is that this partnership did not begin eight years ago. Its origins lie more than half a century earlier, in a place far removed from bidding boxes and scorecards.
Vietnam. Near Da Nang. 1968 to 1970. Marine squadrons H&MS 16 and Purple Fox Squadron - HMM 364.
They did not know each other then. Not really. Not beyond the anonymity of camouflage and the shared, unspoken understanding of young men sent into a war governed by forces far beyond their control. There were no leisurely conversations over beers, no easy camaraderie. Time there was measured differently: by missions, by moments, by survival.
J. “Dave” Owens remembers it now with the clarity, and the distance, of his eighty years. “Who is that man in the mirror?” he writes. “Some mornings, I recognize a familiar reflection; other mornings, I feel the need to reach out and shake a stranger’s hand.”
The years between then and now, he suggests, are both vivid and veiled—“hidden behind the trappings of camouflage… shrouded in an opaque haze.” And yet, the arc of his life stretches wide and full, a rearview mirror opening onto something unmistakable: a life well lived.
Before the war, there was another path entirely. A boy on the shores of Lake Carnegie, New Jersey. A student at Princeton. A future that pointed toward ministry, toward a life of study and contemplation.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned,” he reflects, “so we can live the life that is waiting for us.”
The awakening came abruptly—a letter from the Draft Board. A summons. A turning. What would a student of classical languages and theology know of war?
And yet, war became his calling, though not in the way first expected. The Army was not to be. Instead, Dave found himself drawn to the Marines, and to the cockpit. A Marine aviator. A different kind of ministry, perhaps; one measured in missions, in responsibility, in bringing men home alive.
He thought he might serve six years. Twenty-eight later, he was preparing to retire from a rewarding career with the Marine Corps.
His career would span two wars—Vietnam at the beginning, the Gulf War at the end—and more than 4,000 hours in the air, flying both rotor-wing and fixed-wing aircraft. In the cockpit, as young Marines boarded behind him, Dave would study their faces and offer a quiet prayer: Deliver us home in one piece.
From above, he watched the choreography of duty unfold. Behind him, a door gunner—Jim, or George, or Joe—stood ready at a .50 caliber machine gun, scanning the horizon.
Names were incidental. The mission was everything.
Jim Malone was one of those young Marines.
Unlike many young men of his generation, Jim did not wait to be drafted. While still in college, he volunteered for the Marine Corps. Rather than serving the minimum two years, he signed on for four, and then volunteered for Vietnam.
When his superiors discovered he could type, they assigned him to Group Headquarters (MAG 16) stationed at Marble Mountain, near Da Nang. But Jim wanted more than administrative duty.
“If I must be here,” he said, “I want to be proud of my contributions.” So, he volunteered again.
He stepped away from the relative safety of a desk and volunteered for any assignment that would get him off said desk: helicopter door gunner, retrieval of downed helicopters, scrounging for parts—literally ANYTHING.
And, without knowing it, the partnership of Jim and Dave began.
Fast forward nearly fifty years.
Now they sit across from one another at a bridge table, partners in a very different kind of game. The stakes are lower, the risks mercifully contained to overtricks and underbids. And yet, something of that earlier trust remains—the instinctive reliance, the quiet understanding that your partner will do his job.
They introduce themselves, as bridge players do. Jim will mention his years in the Marine Corps with characteristic understatement. Dave’s 28 years in uniform earn him quiet respect, though he often defers to another club member, Jack Rippy, whose three decades of service place him just ahead in the informal hierarchy of Marines.
But both men carried their discipline and curiosity into remarkably full lives after the war.
When Jim returned home, he resumed his studies at UCLA, initially immersing himself in Japanese Political History with an emphasis on the Tokugawa Period (1603–1867). He learned to speak and write Japanese before practicality intervened. Realizing academia might not provide a stable future, he shifted course once again and earned a degree in Accounting.
His first professional position was as a budget analyst for the City of Los Angeles. Later, he joined tBP Architecture in Newport Beach, where he spent twenty-five years as Chief Financial Officer.
Yet careers alone do not define Jim Malone.
For years, he was a nationally ranked chess player, competing seriously until 2000. When he could no longer find a local chess club, he turned his formidable analytical skills toward bridge instead, much to the benefit of his future partner.
He is also an adventurer in the truest sense of the word. Jim has hiked the legendary Inca Trail to Machu Picchu, climbed Mt. Whitney twice, and conquered the demanding ascent of Half Dome. The same determination that once led him to volunteer for Vietnam seems to echo through every chapter of his life.
Dave’s life, too, continued to widen after he stepped out of uniform.
A lifelong lover of poetry, he began to give language to memory—capturing life’s defining moments in verse. “From an early age, I have loved poetry,” he writes, almost as an aside, though it explains much. In recent years, that impulse has deepened, finding expression in advanced creative writing classes, fiction workshops, the slow and determined shaping of a first novel.
“The end of my opus is in sight,” he says, “if I can convince myself to stop rewriting each chapter.”
Even now, there is forward motion. Curiosity. Discipline. The same qualities that once carried him through thousands of hours in the air now guide him through pages, paragraphs, and the delicate architecture of story.
And somewhere in that story, written and unwritten alike, is Jim.
It is only now, with the luxury of hindsight, that the remarkable truth comes into focus.
More than fifty-seven years ago, in the chaos and uncertainty of Vietnam, they were already there—on the same missions, in the same aircraft, bound by the same fragile thread of survival.
They just didn’t know each other’s names. Today, they do.
Jim Malone and Dave Owens can look back through the long arc of their lives and recognize something extraordinary: that long before they ever shook hands across a bridge table, they had already trusted each other with their lives.
Call it fate. Call it the luck of the draw. Either way, it’s a partnership for the ages.
Special thanks to Joyce Potter and Janie Matlaf of the South Orange County Bridge Center for their indispensable help in writing this article. ♣
Shipboard Life
- At December 31, 2023
- By Jessica
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My favorite cousin, Danielle, texted me that she is getting to know me better from these posts. Uh-oh.
Those of you who know us well know that we take a cruise every five years to celebrate a milestone anniversary. We have a ceremony to renew our vows, conducted by the ship's captain. The Viking World Cruise is in honor or our fortieth. For our hundredth anniversary we are planning an Under- World Cruise
This Viking cruise is definitely different from the others. In the past, our ship was a floating hotel that we left at every port. We just came back to eat (sometimes) and sleep. This one is more like a private yacht. It's about the on-board activities even more than the ports. Maybe that will change as we go along but today, for instance, we decided to skip Thursday Island and luxuriate on board. It is very hot and humid, raining, and the tender ride is 45 min each way. Also, my bridge buddies said there is absolutely nothing on Thursday Island, not even Friday.
It feels almost cyclonesque. The sky is black and the wind is whistling. The captain just announce that as soon as everyone is back on board, he's pulling up anchor and getting out of Dodge.
Other than that, this trip is just divine. Everything we love to do at our disposal. Great food, great wine (very impressed they are serving Los Vascos - one of our favs), fabulous spa and gym. Very interesting lectures at least three times per day, the source of most of those Fun Facts we send from time to time. And, amazing musical entertainment.
There are not enough hours in the day to partake in all the offerings. We are keenly aware of time passing and want to enjoy while we still can. But Eberhard definitely had time to partake in the Bratwurst. And enjoyed every bite!
And, Jessica indulges daily in ice-cream. All home made. Flavors change with each meal.
Speaking of cold things, we understand there's a morgue on board Hoping that's not where they store the ice-cream.
Saigon (Ho Chi Min City), Vietnam
- At December 24, 2023
- By Jessica
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Last night we had dinner at an outstanding Vietnamese restaurant followed by a traditional show at the Golden Dragon Water Puppet Theater. The performance, mua roi nuoc, dates back to the 10th century when, after a harvest, the ponds and rice paddies served as stages for impromptu shows. Backed by a Vietnamese orchestra, singers tell the story being acted out by the puppets, which are controlled by a series of long wooden rods and strings. Often the plays have a rural theme relating to Vietnamese folklore and spiritual beliefs.
We have been getting some contradictory information from different guides. Yesterday, we heard that individuals cannot own land in Vietnam. According to Google: Private ownership of land is not permitted in Vietnam and the people hold all ownership rights with the State as the administrator. However, the laws of Vietnam allow ownership of a right to use land. This right is called the Land Use Right (“LUR”).
Vietnam, Day 3
In 1978, as Vietnam was trying to recover from the "American War," Cambodian Khmer Rouge, supported by China, attacked Vietnam. In 1979 China directly attacked Vietnam in the North. When Nixon and Kissinger opened up relations with China, communist Vietnam didn't trust China anymore and further allied with Russia. After Mao died in 1976, Deng wanted to teach the Vietnamese a lesson and teamed up with Cambodia to invade Vietnam. China considers Vietnam, Hong Kong, and Taiwan to be its satellites. The Vietnamese pushed back both invading forces using American super weapons left behind. The Vietnamese occupied Cambodia until 1995. Today, half the Cambodian population is Vietnamese.
Last year the Vietnamese changed the color of the passport from green to blue as a symbol or message that the government is moving closer toward democracy. There is dissent within the communist party, according to our guide.
We visited Chinatown. More than 1 million Chinese live in Vietnam. Our guide said that there is a civil war brewing in China between the Cantonese speaking southerners and the Mandarin speaking northerners. Has anyone else heard about this?
Wool and More
- At December 10, 2023
- By Jessica
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It's a good thing we love the shipboard life. They just cancelled the 3rd port (out of the first 5) due to weather. It's beautiful out here in the middle of the ocean though.
Just finished lunch and another pear cider. Feeling no pain. Did very well at today's Daily Trivia. Getting really for another round of duplicate bridge. After the pear cider I'm seeing double, not duplicate.
We attended a fabulous lecture this morning on....are you ready....wool!
We learned about the history of the wool trade starting from the Middle Ages.
A few fun facts:
- The Vikings made their sails from wool. One 2,000 sf sail took the wool of 1000 sheep.
- There were 13 steps from shearing to pressing to make wool cloth. Step #8 is called "Fulling." This step entailed soaking the woven wool in hot, stale, human urine and stomping (like grapes) to tighten the fibers. An I Love Lucy missed opportunity?
- The Hundred Year War between England and France was over wool. And it was actually 116 years. Joan of Arc helped France end and win that war (you go girl!). Two years later, the War of the Roses started in England due to devastation and disorder from the 100 (116) years war.
Most interesting to me is how many common idioms originated in the wool trade. Dyed-in-the-wool (steadfast) comes from wool that is dyed early in the process. Shoddy (poor quality) refers to discarded or reused wool then relegated to peasant clothing. Pop Goes the Weasel come from the sound a drop spindle makes when the weasel comes off. I could go on....
But maybe the most interesting new fact is that the wool industry was considered so important to England that in the 14th century King Edward III decreed that the Lord Speaker of The House of Lords must sit on a sack of wool. This custom is still done to this day!! Ronnie Stewart - please confirm or deny.
Oh! We crossed the International Date Line today. Wonder what the time is in the T shaped cutout and why...
Crossing the Pacific
- At December 03, 2023
- By Jessica
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Hope all is well with you, especially our fellow Californians. Sending you sunny thoughts and dry humor.
We had a one hour time change last night so got an extra hour of sleep. This is a much more palatable way to deal with time change….slow and steady.
Thanks for all the positive feedback and requests for photos. Not much to photograph yet because we’re somewhere in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. The weather is sunny and mild. Just beautiful.
Did you know the Pacific Ocean is 64 million square miles? It’s twice the size of the Atlantic, a third of Earth’s surface, 46% of the world’s total water surface, and as deep as 35,797 feet deep at the Mariana Trench.
Here’s where we are currently:
After breakfast and morning yoga, Eberhard went for his bridge lesson and Jessica went for her Wellness Analysis at the Spa. The Age-Less Spa package was a Christmas present from Eberhard. Jessica was hooked up to a dozen or so electrodes. Her hands and feet were stationed on mirror-like panels. The whole get up looked like something between a lie-detector test and Frankenstein’s annual check-up. The pages of computer results were impressive. We’ll spare you the details but her Wellness Score was 93 out of 100. The handsome Swede, Thomas, who analyzed the results said most people score between 60 and 70%. I bet he says that to all the girls and, yes, he got a big tip.
Spa hot tub:
Then we went looking for the shops to buy Jessica an exercise outfit. There were plenty of Scandinavia ski sweaters but no Lululemon.
Jessica and her new found friend/bridge partner Peggy Bossie (that’s really her name although Jessica is much bossier than she is) have now come in second in the duplicate bridge tournament two days in a row.
We had an early dinner of gravlax sandwiches at the bar because we’re going to a 6:30 lecture about human migration patterns. Never a dull moment!
Honolulu, Hawaii
- At November 26, 2023
- By Jessica
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Aloha Family and Friends,
A special call out and mahalo* to our dear friend who is housesitting while we're gone and got more than she bargained for. Apparently, the house is leaking like a sieve. Where is Al Hammond when you need him?
Many of our fellow passengers are getting cabin fever after a week at sea. One said he felt like Noah (forty days and forty nights). Not us! Love the floating life. If we were rich enough we'd be tempted to buy a yacht. But then we'd be worried about the price of gasoline, the cabin steward or, worse, the chef quitting. There's something nice about those being someone else's problems.
Today we went sightseeing in Honolulu. We've been here several times before. But we had never been to the Bishop Museum so we went there.
"Bishop Museum was founded in 1889 by Charles Reed Bishop in honor of his late wife, Princess Bernice Pauahi Bishop, the last descendant of the royal Kamehameha family. The Museum was established to house the extensive collection of Hawaiian artifacts and royal family heirlooms of the Princess, and has expanded to include millions of artifacts, documents and photographs about Hawai'i and other Pacific island cultures. Today, Bishop Museum is the largest museum in the state and the premier natural and cultural history institution in the Pacific."
And, for those of you dying of suspense, we did find a Lululemon.
After a late lunch on the ship, we relaxed a little then went to the gym for an hour followed by a good steam bath and hot tub soak.
We will end today's missive with a Hawaiian poem:
*"Mahalo" is a Hawaiian word meaning thanks, gratitude, admiration, praise, esteem, regards, or respects.
Greenwich, England
- At November 12, 2023
- By Jessica
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Greenwich, England from the sea
We anchored off Greenwich, England this morning waking up to a beautiful day. Leaving shortly for our last excursion: Shakespeare's Globe Theater.
Alas, after four months the cruise portion of our trip is coming to an end tomorrow. We'd like to counter some misconceptions about this type of cruise.
1. Cruises are Sedentary
Actually, cruises can be quite strenuous. When in port, we are usually out and about for at least 8 hours. We regularly logged 10,000+ steps. On At Sea days there's the gym, walking on the deck, exercise classes, and the pools. In fact, the only negative experiences related to other passengers really not up to the activities who slowed the group or irritated us with their complaining.
2. Cruises don't afford enough time in each port
Viking did a great job of planning the time in each port, usually 1-3 days. Never did we feel our time was cut short.
3. Cruises are cramped and uncomfortable
The pampering and luxury is beyond expectation. The staff is amazing.
4. You gain weight from all the food
Before our Covid quarantine, where we basically sat in bed for five days, we had both lost weight despite all the proffered food.
It really was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
FUN FACTS:
Distance Travelled (LA to London) 28,341 miles
Cookies consumed 168,000
Eggs consumed 180,000
Filet Mignon consumed 17,000
Wine consumed 10,000 bottles
Toilet tissue used 35,300 rolls
We didn't go to a single evening show, preferring to retire to our room and read. We read 22 books, many taking place in the locations we visited. The lectures were fabulous, especially those by a speaker called Russell Lee, proving a great speaker can make any subject interesting - even wool.
We learned so much about the world, and how everything interconnects, about the senseless wars and aggressions throughout history, and how people everywhere are the same at their core.
Dover, England
- At November 05, 2023
- By Jessica
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Chalk, the same stuff teachers used to use on blackboards (before there were "smart boards"), is what makes the Dover cliffs white. It seems the smarter the boards get, the dumber the pupils become.
There are still tunnels underneath the cliffs from when Napoleon invaded England.
A visit to nearby Canterbury was such a lovely surprise.
It's like Nantucket but the original. (Think Disneyland vs. Neuschwanstein Castle in Bavaria.) It is famous for The Canterbury Tales and many buildings, pubs, and inns are named for Chaucer's stories.
Canterbury was founded by the Romans over 2000 years ago. They built a light house, city wall, and Amphitheater. They pushed North to found the Roman capital of England - Londonium.
The Archbishop Thomas Beckett was murdered in Canterbury cathedral in 1170. Henry II thought he had too much independence. Beckett became a martyr and Canterbury became the
Mecca of England. It still gets over 100,000 pilgrims per year.
Christopher Marlowe, who it is said to have co-authored Henry V with Shakespeare, was a native of Canterbury. He perished in a pub fight at the age of 29.
Also in Canterbury we saw St. Augustine's Abbey, founded in 597. The Pope sent Augustine to rechristianize England. St. Martin's church is where Bertha, the wife of King Ethelred, is said to have worshipped. If you haven't watched The Last Kingdom, it's a terrific series about the founding of England.
After Canterbury, we visited Walmer Castle, where past wardens of the Cinque Ports lived. It was built in the 16th century as a fortress by Henry VIII.
The Warden is a ceremonial position. A few of the illustrious past wardens were the Duke of Wellington, William Pitt, and the Queen Mother. Currently, the post is vacant.
The most interesting part of the castle were the creatively sculpted ancient Yew hedges.
We passed through the Village of Deal on the North Sea with its picturesque beach huts.
Then we passed through The Hamlet of Ham on the way to the Town of Sandwich. Seriously! Lettuce entertain you some more....
FUN FACT: Famous founding father and author of Common Sense, Thomas Paine, came from Sandwich.
